The first step is understanding why you have conditions in the first place.
“When he proves to me that I can trust him, I’ll love him unconditionally.”
I wait a beat. Two. My client is a brilliant and incisive lawyer. On cross-examination, she’d annihilate any witness who said something so inane. I wait another second. All I get is stubborn silence.
“So,” I say slowly. “As soon as he meets your conditions, you’ll love him unconditionally.”
“Yes,” she says. Incisively.