Ontological Coaching

Ontological coaching expands our capacity to choose. There are many different coaching methodologies. I practice Ontological Coaching. So what is it? Say you hike into the woods for a picnic with a really exciting date or with your husband or wife on an important anniversary. On a stream bank, you spread the cloth, break into the bread and cheese, and pop the cork on a bottle of wine. Without warning, lightning cracks the sky, thunder crashes, and rain falls. Do you shake your fist at the heavens, angry and frustrated that your afternoon has been ruined? What would it be like if you could put your anger and frustration to the side and instead—sing in the rain? Ontology is the study of being. An ontological practice is to purposefully choose your being (at your soggy picnic: choosing joy over anger) regardless of the circumstances. Ontological coaching trains you in how to choose the way of being that best enables you to fulfill on what is important to you. To a certain extent, we already do this. For example, if someone says something offensive to you, your default or reflexive way of being may be to get angry and snap back. However, instead of staying with the anger, you count to ten, take a breath, and calm down before responding. You have chosen to be calm instead of angry; to respond from a considered place instead of an aggrieved one; to choose your being instead of being on automatic.This is power. The Benefits Think for a moment of a person you know who is collected, centered, and grounded and who...